I wish that I had your strength. My Wife moved out two month's ago. She sees OM on Saturday nights. The rest of the week she hangs around me, enjoying our friendship.
We had the boundaries conversation. My results were the same as yours (thought she ended it, but didn't). I continue to be her friend because I enjoy her company. Does this approach keep us LBS in pain longer? I don't know; it seems like it's going to be painful either way.
At this point, there is one thing I know for sure: there is nothing I can do to change her mind about OM. So my choice is clear. I either take myself out of the relationship completely (as you have) or I accept my new role as her friend. So far, I have chosen the later.
In the mean time, I'm GAL and looking for new friends that will treat me better.
