Help save my WAW

[NotReadyToQuit]

Well, ever since my W got home from her business trip last night things have been pretty uncomfortable. She's back to her old mood and acting like she just despises me. I don't get it. I thought things were going so well. Now I feel like she won't even look at me and treats me very cold.

Pensacola, I think you're right. I should probably just move out before she brings it up. Should I still avoid any R or D talk? Do I just tell her that I can't live like this? That I don't want to be somewhere that I'm obviously not wanted or loved? This can't be healthy. I feel that I deserve better than this.

[MrBond]

Yes. DO NOT engage in R talk. This phase will pass. The thing is you have to be the stronger one and show that her moods DO NOT affect you. I repeat... HER moods DO NOT control YOU.

[NotReadyToQuit]

I just don't get the reason for the sudden change. The sad thing is, her moods still affect me tremendously. Even though she hasn't shown me any love for a long time, and doesn't even treat me like an acquaintance, I still can't get myself to leave. How pathetic is that? Maybe I'm still holding out hope, maybe I'm embarrassed to ask any friends or my parents if I can crash there for a while.

Man, just reading this I sound like a whiny pushover. Not a man at all. This is disgusting. I desperately need to get some help and GAL.

[MrBond]

Her change seems "sudden" to you when in actuality she had been planning this for awhile. You're just playing catch up.

And why do you keep thinking that you have to move out? If she is that unhappy, she should leave. Simple as that.

"Maybe I'm still holding out hope, maybe I'm embarrassed to ask any friends or my parents if I can crash there for a while. "

Nothing wrong with having hope. But don't ignore the reality of the situation. Stand strong and do what YOU want to do. Keep your changes consistent no matter how much she is raging.

[Pensacolabroken]

Not ready,
I am only saying that my wife met me at the airport and told me she wanted a divorce, I did all the things most have done, begged, whined pleaded, cried, blah blah.. it was only after I accepted her desire to divorce, and I started moving in my own direction, getting my life and planning and preparing for one without her, that she came to me. Then of course I blew it a couple of weeks ago, but we are still married, still wearing rings and still sleeping in the same bed saying I love you each night..

it is not an easy road and you only have to look at some of our situations to see the path you have to follow. It [censored] everyday for me as well and you are not alone.

I recommend you let go of the fear. That is the thing I think I have the most trouble with. I feel it is transferrable and the WAW will run from it.. so stop transmitting, GAL and be prepared to move on.. she may suprise you.

[NotReadyToQuit]

Thanks guys, I really appreciate the support. I'm starting to try to imagine/plan my life without her. As much as I want to be with her, I just don't see her coming around. I hope I'm wrong, but I have to start living for me and not thinking about her anymore. I think I might try to stay at a friends place this week. A little space might do us some good.

I want to tell her that I can't live like this. That I just can't put up with the way she treats anymore. I deserve more than that and I want to be happy.

Is that too much? Should I leave all that out and just say we need some space. I want to show her that I'm taking a stand, but at the same time, I don't want to piss her off and cause her to rebel.