When life hands you lemons add alcohol and stir!

[kat727]

I think that actually worked out fine. He told you everything without you having to ask or put him on the spot. Actually probably smart of them to not attempt to drive after drinking and they were closer to where they needed to be anyhow if I understood everything correctly.

Glad he missed you.

kat

[mishka422]

LOVE IT OT! YOU CRACK ME UP!

You got it all straight kat. And all of that came out on his own without me having to ask him for an explanation of the charge.

[JCJ]

Way to go Mishka!! I love it when things work out without us having to interfere, isn't it always the most satisfying resolution. Yay!

[MichelleLT]

So glad everything came out on its own and his explanation was very legitimate and reasonable.

LOL about the double-secret probation OT!

His actions are speaking volumes chica. The way you write about it, he is "all there."

While I agree that you shouldn't back him into a corner, asking for what you want will not be the end of the world either, done right of course.

[oldtimer]

Was serious about double-secret probation. I wouldn't be married for five years with a four-year-old without using it while dating H.

Gabe knows what she wants, so does she. Asking for it shares no new info, but it takes away Gabe's chance to figure out what he wants.

[mishka422]

Teach me grasshopper!!!

Exactly how does this double-secret probation work? If I don't tell him what I want then how can he ever decide if he is willing to give that?

[whatisis]

Double secret probation...I think my BIL was on that for drug possession...didn't work, but he did switch to Listerine!

[MichelleLT]

OT - why do you think he knows what she wants? Am I forgetting a conversation here, or didn't he just move back into the house, and then the bedroom with nary a real conversation? While that might make it obvious they want to be with each other, that doesn't necessarily make it obvious what she wants from the R from my perspective...

[JCJ]

Are you clear about what your needs from the relationship are Mishka? I found it really helpful to write down what my needs and expectations were (which I found in the end to be surprisingly simple) and then I knew exactly what I was asking for.

[mishka422]

OH my Julia, tough question. I have a hard time defining my goals in every aspect of my life so figuring those out in a R is even tougher. I'll work on it and see where I get.