It would be helpful if OM would "dump" your W, but she would have to work through another set of emotions.....like rejection from him.
A RO might be helpful, especially if he could not be anywhere around your children.
The idea way would be that the root of the M problem would be solved, your W would initiate ending the A, and she would feel strongly attracted to you.
Even if this A ends, if her emotional needs are not met by you....she could enter another A. It could be with the same man or a different man. She is searching for somebody to make her feel good, to offer her hope at happiness in the future. If she's looking for romance or excitement.....whatever, she will keep searching out other men to fulfill that dream. That's why just getting rid of OM doesn't automatically make everying okay.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
