I was going to tell Sad-but-happy to expect his WAW to go through extremly hard emotional times, and this will effect him a lot. Depending on her nature, she may not show the remorse that you want to see. She may not apologize for what she's done. It took me a very long time.
It's important for both you (Sad & Punchy) to work at being the man she fell in love with. What would that man have done if her found her cheating? How would he have treated her during "recovery"?
If you are living like roommates, Punchy, that means she isn't attracted to you. OM in her life prevents the attraction, but after the EA is over....will she be attracted then?
I still maintain that respect is vital to a MR. Before she can love you, she has to respect you.
Hope I don't sound like I'm talking in circles.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
