wife preparing to leave me and kids

[blue2010]

OK, what a fun Saturday, The OM Spouse found my W's email and sent her a letter addressing the A and no contact. Sent via email so she got it right away on her phone. I believe the content was on par with Marriage Builders No contact letter. She cc'd me.
My w's reaction when she got home. w: can we talk me: do we need to w: yes me:ok W: I am done i want a divorce you are dealing with me I am hearing stories and dealing with OM, now OM Spouse and i cant take it I am going to have a break down. I am done I don't want to talk. I don't want to see anyone. I will get through xmass and I am done. me: calmly reminded her i still love her the kids do we want her in the house. On the stories I said what are you hearing stories about me I have been faithful to you all theses years and commited i love you and still do. Will you do one thing before you file just give it some time for our heads to settle. W: soft spoken ok fine. a little more talk she says she cannot stay here tonight. She is a wreck. Says she is going to find somplace to stay where nobody will know where she is.
So she left here and OM Spouse tells me she emailed him to ask if he got in trouble. OM spouse got the email responded to her via text asking her to stop and wanted her to know that OM told OM Spouse about the email and phone call and that OM spous says she has had enough. We are rediscussing OM doing a NC letter I mentioned restraining order. And we both agree that his response to that will tell us where we stand. OM Spouse knows she cannot force him.