VERY glad you had a good day with your H. It sounds as though the connection between you and H is still strong --- it has weathered a lot! We all need to know that there is still a connection there as we make decisions about how we will choose to move forward. You are doing VERY well! I'm giving you a GIANT gold star for how you conducted yourself yesterday.
Glamgirl, thanks for sharing your experience. It really helps all of us to see what movement toward reconciliation looks like, even though we can't allow ourselves to have any expectations.