And just one final point...

I'm not focusing on who did wrong. I'm simply stating that there is no room for OP in R and it can't be allowed to continue. It's too damaging!

There is NO WAY to move forward if OP is involved...

M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14
EA - July 2010
NC w/EA - Nov 2010
Piecing - Jan 2011
I ask for div - Jan 2012
Div papers filed - Mar 2012
I move out - July 2012
Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012