Ms. H, Yep, your are correct...."were married" is the right phrase!
It doesn't matter whether you have children or not, they live in denial and that tie is there. My xh still pops out periodically I remain "civil" but I don't allow him to get to me the way he once did many years ago. BTW, they do tend to stir the pot around holidays, so be prepared to flick him off your shoulder and try not to allow him to ruin your holiday.
My mother had total knee replacement in July and was back driving in 3 weeks! She's doing very well. My sister and her two children are doing well. Both kids are on the honor roll. I am staying fairl busy with the kids and am hoping to take them to the Gaylord Hotel for a viewing of the Grinch ice sculptures over the holidays.
If he's got that much in the bank, I think it's time your lawyer went after what he owes you...you are very lucky that your parents were able to assist you. I understand what you are saying about retirements/pensions...they know you'll pay them back as soon as you can. Put your faith and trust in the man upstairs...
Merry Christmas to you and your family! Take some time for yourself during the holiday and just relax. You owe it to yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
