I could not respect either a man or a woman who's not 100% committed to their spouse. This does not mean giving in 100% of the time or in extreme cases taking abuse. But it certainly does mean not following the jungle laws of attraction. There's invariably some more attractive people than your spouse all around you. Being unfaithful even if your spouse does not measure up would not earn my respect. In fact if my spouse were unfaithful I would be repulsed, not attracted to them.
I would not respect a woman who's constantly testing me or trying to push my boundaries or spewing forth copious random feelings and f-words - this seems juvenile to me and I'd get tired of it. As a man I sometimes need/want/have to lead at other times I simply want to follow a leader. I would expect a wife to lead too as well as follow.
And yes I find the leadership of a kind, gentle and rational woman very very sexy. The bossy/hysterical/entitled one's repulsive.
