So.. out of the entire post.. all you got out of it was that your list was correct?
"Forest gump I swear to u thoses were her exact words in fact I cut and pasted her post"
I am confused.. maybe you can help me out. From what I read you confronted her and a discussion in sued.
Then you..
"ask her what changes i needed to make and she provided a list but said there was two much to change and that she would be crazy to take me back as miserable as i make her."
Where exactly did she POST this list? Did she have the list in her hand? Did she email it to you later? Did she post it on the I am married to a crazy person forum?
I understand that I am digging at you a bit. But.. you gotta get your head on straight sir.
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