I'm so sorry Barb, I wish I could give you a hug, we need those so badly.

I think don't pretend - I would feel nauseous if I were you. Maybe move to a local hotel or something close by. Or just stay in a room with the kids when he is home.

My H also has talked to me about moving into our rental house after the holidays, for alone time. I just did not answer. Then he said he wanted to go fly to see OW this Sunday to settle everything - he said its bugging him.... I thought he ended it already last Nov.26. I think he really wants to know if OW would accept him. I just want to tell him that the moment he steps out of the house he should not come back.

At this point, I think this is what DR teached us - how to be strong. I keep thinking that maybe, I will be happier without him. Just talked to an officemate of mine who had been carrying the burden of her mariage for 8 yrs, then she got moved due to work, and had to leave her H at home in another city, and suddenly she found out how happy she could be without him!

I actually felt envious of her strength and courage.

Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18
Bomb: 6/26/10
EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ???
11/5/11 Retrouvaille
Finally piecing....
Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go