Lot's of things in there that a woman wants in her man though
Well--this is usually true of a very feminine woman. It's a good point, but not true of every relationship, and this is the point that needs caution: THERE IS NO ONESIZEFITSALL GOOD advice. Every relationship is different. Sometimes the woman is the masculine energy and the man is the feminine energy, and that's the problem with the 'man-up' advice across the board.
I can only speak for myself, but in my M, I am *definitely* the one with more masculine energy, and I still desire my partner to be strong and respect himself enough to set boundaries. I need that or I will run roughshod all over my spouse, and that's not a healthy trait for a M.
I think we have to go back to what originally attracted us to our mate and our mates to us. What did they comment on at the time? What are their criticisms? Those are the clues to help you figure out what's attractive. And...well, with an OP, if you know anything about them, that's also a clue. The woman my H had a crush on was also a strong woman but she knew how to be soft. She had the whole earth mother vibe, as if she was Mother Teresa. (She wasn't. I found out she'd been charged as an accessory to murder in her early 20's but the charges were dropped because she testified against the gunman, her boyfriend at the time.)
I have cultivated the softer side of my personality. I am still very strong, but I don't wield my power like a club any more. It makes an environment where my more feminine-energy H feels more comfortable to stand up and be the stronger partner I need. It's good for both of us.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
