If your wife will consider going with you, you should go to a Retrouvaille weekend. Go to the website, www.helpourmarriage.org and read up on the program and find the nearest weekend for you. Then ask her nicely if she will go with you before she moves out or divorces you. This is your best chance. They can help you. But both spouses have to be willing to go. Good luck! You owe your wife more than an apology.