fb2, I think Coach is just talking about the laws of attraction which govern us all; men and women alike.

Coach, I've long wrestled with how a man wants to see his WIFE behave when he is wayward?

It would be the same principles right?

I don't think it is Un-Feminine for a woman act with her head (bringing her emotions under control) when her spouse is out of control, involved in an affair, and ruining the family finances, right?

It's called protecting your family, no matter what your agenda?

Sometimes I have worried that by Leading, I am acting like a Mother. And when attraction is lost ("You are more like my sister than my wife"), the last thing I want is to be more Motherly!

Any clarity would be appreciated.

Me 36; H 40
baby born in May
M:13, T:15
Bomb (OW): Dec 09
began DBing: Feb
WH overseas with OW
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