Darn I can't do this one either, unless I win some money! I already promised S18 Germany for his graduation present. We are going over Spring Break when it is cheaper. Now if you guys want to come too, the more the merrier. We are going to Copenhagen first to see my Danish sister. S18 hasn't been there since he was 5.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
So the bratty kid has re-emerged. It is so annoying. I really want to type "Just go away" but I have to see him at basketball later so I am not going to!
I emailed him yesterday that I ordered a shirt for Sydney from the tumbling place, and it would be ready when he took her this morning. Just a simple black tshirt with their logo in pink.
Well he starts off texting me that the shirt is wayyy too big, was it the smallest size possible?
Gee, no, I ordered the biggest I could find.
Then he goes on to ask if I am practicing with her at home.
Yes, indeed, I have all of those wedges and mats that they have right in my living room.
Then he says that she is no better than she was and if we aren't practicing it is a colossal waste of cash.
Hmm, shocking, a four year old has not shown much growth in 10 whole lessons? And I am so glad you are worried about MY money since I pay for the lessons!
I didn't say any of that but sheesh. Somebody is going to have an aneurysm if he doesn't learn to relax and go with the flow! And yeah I do practice some but I don't have all the equipment so we do what we can.
I don't know if he is pissed that his lashing out does not make me react like it used to, or that I seem happy and he is not happy, or what. But get over it!
I think you SHOULD have answered with those remarks - maybe it would have shut this silliness of his down. Either that or ignore him from the very beginning when he does this stuff. All he is doing is baiting you and trying to reach out and frustrate you.
Well he continued his crap at basketball. I could tell his parents were quite uncomfortable by the end of the double header.
He called me 40 min before the game and said that he was at the mall looking for shoes for Nathan as his were shot. He asked if I could bring the new shoes he had bought Nathan (at beginning of school year he bought two pairs for each kid and I bought school supplies) just in case...
So I come in and bring them an he has gotten new basketball shoes. No big deal. I sit beside Sydney as she is reaching for me. Well the first game went fine. The second game Nathan got tired I guess, he seemed distracted. Dan started getting grumpy and making comments. He even said a few things out loud to Nathan while he was running down the court. UGH!!!! I told him to NOT yell at Nathan while he is on the court, that is ridiculous. He snaps at me asking how much I am practicing with Nathan. I just laughed and said, "Wow, you can find a way to make just about everything my fault, that is awesome." And he said, "Yeah pretty much."
Then he calmed down and tried explaining to me that he didn't care if his kids were good at things, but he wanted them to pay attention and do their best. I said, "I agree I tell Nathan all the time 'I don't care if you ARE the best, but I want you to DO your best'". And he settled down for a while but got pissy again.
After the game I came down to the lobby of the Y with Sydney. She was trying to put on her coat and he was frustrated with her bc she could not get her arm in the sleeve. He started grumbling about how I do everything for them so they don't know how to do anything--in front of her. Jackass.
Sydney asks if Mommy can come have lunch with them, and he says NO. She starts crying and he gets irritated at me. I told her "It's ok I can carry you to the car" because we are literally in a blizzard warning by this time and it is super cold and windy. Why not carry a kid in a storm? But this further irritates Dan and he says it is another example of me doing too much and that she is capable of walking. So then he takes her from me and carries her out himself (??) while she is reaching for me and crying.
Dude needs some serious anger management therapy ASAP. I wish you could forcibly commit someone for having a bad attitude.
((((((BobbiJo)))))) I would have to say.... Dan is not a happy man! I'm sorry he has to take it out on the kids. That is so wrong... it makes me crazy!
He got 'what he wanted'...he got a divorce, he is free of me. He is apparently still seeing his pretty, younger affair partner. He makes a lot of money. And yet he is miserable.
I really wish he could win the lottery and buy back the piece of the farm. Then I could see if that would actually make him happy. Right now he can carry that excuse around with him, that he is so miserable bc he will never have his dream...
I know we won't get back together. And I am coming to terms with that more and more. His attitude helps in that arena, for sure. But I just wish we could coparent and be a team for the kids. What is frustrating is that sometimes we can. I mean, we just went to see Santa together last Sunday, and walked around the bookstore together after. The kids love when we can do that stuff once in awhile. Then today he is back to crabby Dan. Ugh.
He definitely needs parenting classes and anger management. He doesn't comprehend what is appropriate to be said in front of children and what isn't. Frankly BBJ, he disgusts me!
Hope the rest of your night goes better. Stay warm and stay safe.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
