now since the wedding my mom sister and the rest of my family have evry few days been coming to my house bagging off the door, leaving me nasty messages on my phone even sending me letters demanding thousands of money spent on the time she allocated to my wedding and wanted the dresses back. i didnt respond to any of it so a month afetr the wedding our windows were smashed, then car windows were smashed and then recently i get a letter from my solicitor stating she wants full custody of my daughter, this is what was the final straw for my DH and why he left me as he couldnt take all this abuse that my family were causing and they just wouldnt stop, i couldnt go to the police as i had no proof as to who smashed the windows but my mom and sister have smashed someone elses windows that they did not like so i am guessing it was them, also they played mind games with me, they sent me messages saying have a good day, then in the morning i found the car windows smashed, i rec'd a message saying have a good week then 2 days later got a letter from my mom's solicitor, my H said he was worried i was going to have a nervous breakdown and tought it best to leave me so that i could back to them and end this madness before someone got hurt.
So since we have been married we have had a lot of drama to deal with, i have broken down at work so many times and had to have time off but luckily my supervisor has been understaning as she sees herself as my work mom and fighting my corner with my manager, but i know that i am an emotional reck and to be honest have no idea how my H has been coping, now as i type this and look back i guess he hasnt and has been watching me on this rollercoaster going out of control, i had invested so much emotion into the wedding seeing it as a new beginning for us and for it to start so badly crushed my hopes and my H has said he wished we never married me but i now realise he was talking out of anger otherwise he could of walked away that day and any day since(i hope) he had said we can get over the day and have a happy marriage but it has been hard for me to let it go especially as it is something so public, people from both our jobs were there and saw and heard what was said and done and are still talking about it, some even make jokes about it like 'dont give that job to her you dont want the project to end up a disaster like her wedding' :0(
sorry this was so long and this isnt even all of it but it has helped to get some of this out and i sit here without a tear whereas for the last 2 months if anyone mentioned the wedding i would breakdown into floods of tears but know i am carrying alot of hurt and now have no family or friends on top of it
