The only easy opportunity for contact, is when we sleep together.
Do you think so? I think maybe other men think the same way. But it so surprises me because I don't think it's how a lot of us women 'work'. I've often told my H how much it helps me feel more sexual towards him, when he touches me in little ways throughout each day; a long, intimate kiss in the morning (not one of those silly hurried pecks on the cheek before work); a stroke on the back of the neck; holding hands while walking somewhere... I think by waiting until you're in the bedroom, even if it's just nonsexual, is missing out on a lot of opportunities to rebuild the connection that leads to physical intimacy.
Originally Posted By: Concerned_Listener
I would like my W to take better care of herself, including smoking cessation.
So is this one of your needs of the M CL? I get where you're coming from, but this seems like a slippery slope. Her actions around this are out of your control. I fear if you keep trying to 'influence' her in this area she is going to start feeling inadequate and controlled.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
