decade of heartbreak

[Sad_but_happy]

Hi Cold,
Sorry you have found yourself here... My opinion on OM is she needs to stop all contact right away. My wife had a 2 month EA (NC for about 5 weeks now) and I told her that she MUST CHOOSE to stop seeing/texting/talking/emailing or leave the home.

I told her that there is no room for 3 in a marriage.

It is my opinion that mt W wouldn't respect me if I stood by and let her continue her A with me knowing it. I may lose my wife but I keep my dignity and self respect.

Keep in mind that telling your W to stop all contact could make her flee. You have to be ready for that..

After I set the NC boundary my W was even more angry. Even more cold. Even more distant. And yes it was painful. But it WAS worth it for me.

I am fully confident that if my wife leaves it will hurt. But guess what, if she stays and continues to see OM it will hurt. Probably even more... So what do I have to lose???

I'm not a door mat... I WILL NOT...

Pay for the car that drives her to him
Pay for the internet that emails him
Pay for the phone that texts him
Pay for the panties that HE will get to enjoy if the EA continues

This is just my opinion and others disagree with me, but my mind will never change...

Stop A or leave!