I think this analogy doesn't really apply to marriages.
It wasn't about marriages. It was about how would react in that situation.
It's about attraction, respect, leadership, confidence, self-respect, boundaries, protecting your wife & family, being decisive, strength, honor, values, and doing the right thing.
Lot's of things in there that a woman wants in her man though.
The 180 is that you let your partner keep stealing from you, robbing you of your self-worth while you accomodate him, and your wife loses respect and her feelings of love for you because you won't stand up for yourself. Feelings can and do change quickly. Values, morals and beliefs should be solid and where the boundary starts. If you want to change your wifes feelings about you then change how she thinks about you. A woman can't love a man that she can walk all over this fosters contempt, resentment and entitlement. When you a secure in who you are then she can feel safe, relaxed, trusting and loving. That's why women test men to feel safe. She wants to know her man is strong.
A strong, confident man doesn't reward his wife who is behaving badly. Love has many different sides. A woman is attracted to a man who can make hard, cold decisions if needed because that is not her strength. Leadership is attractive.
One of the keys to my success was and is understanding what women (my woman) find attractive. FTR my wife is very smart, thinks thru things and very capable in making decisions. When she is stressed or presented with an issue that is unfamiliar is when she leads a with her feelings. It's at these times when she needs someone to lead with their thoughts and she tests me to feel safe. Boundaries make people feel safe. A plan followed up with action make people have confidence. Standing by doing nothing except waiting for someone else to make a decision causes unrest and fear. Lead.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
