Well, right or wrong I couldn't wait for anyones input so I went on my own and texted her about how I felt. She said she should have erased the past txt's, but the only reason om sent photo's of his little boy was to show how he took her advice and joined the boy scouts with him. Little boy is devastated by his parents divorce. (Still don't know the full extent my w's role in A with om played in his divorce)
I told her she gave him good advice but my problem is not with the boys photo's, it's with his(om) thanksgiving day i luvu txt and phone calls by both during her time off.
I also told her I/we have to look at three faces (our children) everyday and I am determined not to see that type of hurt on them. They have had enough.
Explained we have alot of work to do and it will take time but continued contact with om is only going to hurt our marriage worse.
Ended it by saying I can't force her to do anything but my thoughts right now are to --- cut the cord.
