Lying and Cheating

[courageous wife]

MLW

I am sorry that you are going thru this! I don't know why you haven't been served yet...mine came within a couple of days of H filing, in the mail, unbeknownst to me.

You do not need an L to sign the papers. Signing them just means that you aknowledge that it has been filed. If you are more comfortable talking with an L...you can make an appt and they will just charge you for the time (mine was $150 an hour...this amount was taken off the total retainer fee when I decided to retain L). The L will explain the options in your state and what the next step is.

I have spoken with a DB coach. They will be able to help you in how to act around H, give you guidance on how to speak with your H. Only YOU can decide whether to move on or not. BTW, moving on doesn't necessarily mean to give up hope that a R is posssible with your H.

Moving on means to GAL, take care of yourself and your kids. It also means that you have to think of yourself and your kids in the event of a D. Do not be afraid to ask for what you NEED in the D so that you and your kids will not have to struggle.

Not sure any of this makes sense but I have spent so much time and money trying to fix this marriage that he has been done with for months, how do you know when to fold?

Everyone says you WILL know when the time comes.

Try to not let the worry of when those papers will come...don't talk with your H about it unless he brings it up and if you are not comfortable talking about it then ask that you put the convo on hold until you are feeling stronger!