Lying and Cheating

[midlifewife]

I still have not been served although I know they are out there and it is a matter of time. My husband has finally quit denying the affair, well he says they were just friends but he has moved on and just wants this over with so he can live his own life. He told me yesterday he will never ever come back.

Most of me is done, sick sick sick knowing that the past year has just been one lie after the other protecting her, another part of me wants to keep a small flame of hope that if he ever wakes up he will come home.

I have considered calling a DB coach but will they be able to help me decide what to do, or help me move on with my life regardless of what he does. Is there even a reason to hope now that he has filed and is planning a new life with OW? OW is actually a little scary, I think she could end up being a stalker/nutcase like that movie Fatal Attraction, she is calculating and manipulitive beyond what I can even imagine, he is now her little puppet. I am just not sure it is even healthy to think there is ever a chance he will come home.

I am trying to not be hateful in hopes of keeping things amicable between us but I hate who he has become and am afraid fighting for what I want in the divorce as far as custody etc will just make him not only close the door but lock it forever.

Not sure any of this makes sense but I have spent so much time and money trying to fix this marriage that he has been done with for months, how do you know when to fold?