Ok. Confusion here. I know Coach directed this toward the men but could easily be a question for the women. See - I'm on the fence right now. More of the same for me would be continuing to let H live here while I know he is in contact with his ex-wife. But doesn't DR say to just put that kind of stuff on the back-burner? Not mention the OW to your H? Just get on with life and give them space that way while GAL? So dbmod - when you say "the worst thing you can do is more of the same", would you then suggest I start setting the boundaries that are suggested above?? I have tried this but wasn't ready - I did in in complete anger and without thinking it over enough. I was not organized. I was all over the place. What would be the correct thing to say to H in my situation?!
M9+ T 11+ Me42 H44 2 kids under 5 IlYBNILWY -3/10 A discovered late 8/10 H moved out early 9/10 - back two weeks later "Taking a Break" - H moves out 1/2/10
