Working on acceptance and forgiveness

[AntoniaB]

I totally understand what you guys are saying about his reactions. I guess the hard part for me is that he has me CONVINCED that he's no longer in MLC or in depression. I mean I can't count how many times he says he's feeling good, or how many times he says that while he admits he was in MLC and depression, that all that ended when he got out of the marriage--that the marriage was what was "holding him back" from enjoying his life and that he just needed to be with "the right person" to be able to feel free and in charge of his destiny. He keeps telling me that he's fine, he's happy, he's clear, and he feels very much past all that "confusion" that he was in for the past year or so.

And I know that is all rationalization, but I actually think that as long as his new relationship holds out, he's going to believe every word he says about being past MLC. Like I really think he has fooled himself again into thinking everything is ok, especially because, like I said before, he sees me doing SO WELL without him. I think he thinks he did me a favor in dumping me.