I just want to echo what Beatrice has said. I well remember wondering one day, how did I never realize when I married H that he was so selfish and self-centred? The truth is, it is a symptom of an MLC.
My brother is going through a severe depression right now. Somehow, he's fixating on me as the source of all his problems: if I'd never told him that I'd been molested by someone he adored as a child, his life would be fine. I was wrong for how I told him, that I told him, every way I've handled it since then, etc etc. If I say pretty much anything to him, in his mind it quickly becomes twisted so that I've said something nasty, am trying to hurt him, am acting from unkind motives, etc.
Because it's my brother, not H, it's easier to see how the depression has made him incapable of actual reasoning--everything he says is based on emotions that are beyond his control, leaving him confused and attaching blame in the wrong places in attempts to rationalize and explain away things that he doesn't want to face.
I know that you placed a particular meaning on why you gave the album; however, you CANNOT expect a depressed person to understand your motivations, because his mind cannot grasp the "big picture" at this point. Looking back, I have to feel extremely sorry for my H for going through the MLC, because it must have been agonizingly painful to be so filled with doubt, anger, confusion, tunnel vision and paranoia that nobody's motives could be trusted.
