I can relate. I know that I'm not the cause of her stress. I've been gone for a while. The problem resides within the WAS. They won't get it until they look internally, but unfortunately that's one of the hardest things anyone could ever do. It's always easier to blame someone else for your unhappiness. That isn't to say we didn't contribute to the problems in the relationship, but we are not completely to blame for the situation.
My wife seems to think the D will be a cure-all. I'm sure the next step, once she realizes it hasn't helped is to find someone else. Who knows how many failed relationships it will take for her to figure it out, but I'm not likely to be there. I was there all the way up to the D. Now it's time to completely move on.
M:39 W:37 Together: 16 years Married: 11 years Bomb: May '09 (ILYBNILWY) Moved out: Nov '09 D: 10, 8, 4