Hope it's not too late

[what next?]

I don't think that there is an OM. It's not a tool it is the best thing to do for me. It is probably not the best thing to do for my marriage but that is my dilemma. I need to be looking out for me and doing what I need to do and I don't want the hope that we can reconcile get in the way of that. I'm trying to stay objective but it's pretty difficult.

If we were divorced I would spend 2 years at the new job and then start looking for something back home.