I hear ya Punchy... But I will tell you this.. After I told my W to end it, she hated me... No love at all... She completely shut down emotionally... It did hurt bad... She even told me, "we are no longer a couple.". This after 21 years together. But after only 4 weeks we talk every night, have wine every night. She has again started talking of our future and I think we are piecing. Now I know that things progress at different paces and yes, you could risk losing her...

But in my opinion if she continues an EA she is already gone... I mean do you really have her?

I Wes and am ready to follow through if she CHOOSES to go back to OM. I'll be fine... It's her that will suffer...

Proceed cautiously but confidently... Regain your respect and dignity...

M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14
EA - July 2010
NC w/EA - Nov 2010
Piecing - Jan 2011
I ask for div - Jan 2012
Div papers filed - Mar 2012
I move out - July 2012
Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012