E, the divorce your L draws up is just a piece of paper. It is the rest of this stuff that may get in the way. Worry about detaching and taking care of yourself. That will help you with your boards much more than what is happening with the D papers or your H. If you can, maybe you can push the adjournment far enough away that it not interfering with your boards.
As far as your H deciding to stay home sick, I agree that it does sound fishy. Like 25 says though, IF he wants back, he will let you know. Maybe he is just sticking a toe in the water since he hasn't had much contact for a while.
