You make some good points. Helen and I have an ongoing conversation on the infidelity board on just this topic. She has been great as someone that has gone through an EA also. Both of your thoughts are invaluable to men like myself that are trying to go through rebuilding their marriages. Both of you seem to have been through the samething that my wife is going through right now.
More quesions if you have time and I will also look for some of your other posts because you may have answered them somewhere.
She is now backpedling on the what the EA has to do with how she feels about me. She says that she has felt like this way before the EA. When does the light come on or does it?
The detaching is such a fine balance. Do we talk about the issues or not? If you don't talk about the issues and feelings how can it get better? If she needs to have conversation and friendship then don't we talk?
Did you ever feel bad about what you where doing? My wife seems to feel bad but just can't control her feelings?
Help me understand how strong an EA can be. Does this person become your saftey net? Do you think that it might happen again in your marriage?
You are here on this site so you must really want to work on your marriage. I can't say that my wife does not want to work on it she is just not real active. You thoughts on this stuff are great. It's funny because when all this began I was the one pushing her hard to find out what was going on. Now I back off more. Though I can't say it helps
