I did a small paying it forward yesterday. This past week my boss signed us up to do a radio report each day every other week. So I got to be on the radio twice already. I asked the radio guy about how you could get a song played as a new artist. he suggested a smaller market where they have more control ogf their programming. he gave the name of a guy, station and city.
I passed that all on to K's daughter. I don't know her but he talks about her a lot, so I feel as if I do. Anyway, what she does with the info from here is up to her. I am plenty willing to help someone achieve their dreams.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Right now I am having a moment where I am so upset with myself. I fell down as a parent. D10 tells me for the first time, 5 minutes before I have to leave for an appointment with S18, that she has a concert... tonight. I got upset and she melted. She had arranged a ride with someone in her class. Oh my, I am so disappointed in myself. I need a tissue.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
You feel you fell down as a parent because you got upset that you didn't know about an event that she hadn't told you about? Are you supposed to mindread her now?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I understand Kat. A few weeks ago my D13 told me about a school information meeting re high school while we were standing in line for flu shots. I said "when is this meeting?" she said "tonight at 6:30 pm and I really want to go " and it was 5:45 pm when she told me. I did not respond well but we did go because I felt it was important enough to go to even if it was a last minute announcement. Hey, later you just tell D "Sorry that I overreacted and hurt your feelings. I'd really appreciate in future it if you'd do your best to let me know these things a little earlier" I find apologizing when I get that way helps, it shows I'm human and also adult enough to admit my mistakes. Kids need to know those things about their parent(s). We should model the good stuff but also model how to own up to mistakes. Don't sweat it Kat, think of it as a teachable moment... for both of you. Btw ice cream will help you feel better!
No, she was just so upset, crying and everything because I was mad. She kept saying that I hated her. Of course I didn't say that or even think that. It was a trying night. It is hard when she says she doesn't even know if I love her.
It will all be good tomorrow.
Kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Too tired to post about something very similar that happened yesterday with DD and I felt horrible all evening but today was a GREAT day! we're lucky we get to do the do-overs kat and that's all that matters. Today more than made up for it.
Of course, she knows you love her and vice-versa but when our feelings get hurt we say hurtful things to either hear something consoling or to project what we're feeling.
We live and learn.
(((hugs)))
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
While Christmas time is exciting it's also stressful for parents and children. Your D is just letting out her stress, they have concerts to do, presents to get, parties to go to and school work to keep up. It takes it's toll, just as it does on adults. So you apologize, talk about the stress of Christmas, take her in your arms and kiss her all over till she starts giggling loudly!
