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[MrBond]

It's not necessarily contradictory. It's been shown here that once you take the attention off of your spouse, they do start thinking about you. I don't think the thinking about the LBS ever goes away, it just gets "changed" for lack of a better term.

Anyhow, keep yourself busy living your life to its fullest. Do what you want to do to have fun and really enjoy. No faking.