MLC or just an EA?

[angel61]

We had a "talk" this AM. Upon awakening, H asked me how I can stand it (our sitch)
I did not answer right away, I was not sure how to approach.
He said he was going crazy already, cracking up.
He said that he even finds himself getting short tempered to D11, who prevously could get away with anything with him.
I told him that he was not being himself, that time would change things.
He scoffed at that.
He asked me why I did not answer how I could stand it.
I said I don't know, maybe prayer, maybe by taking it a day at a time.
He said that in January, he was thinking of asking our renter to vacate our other house (5 mins away from where we live) and living there. I did not say anything.
He said D11 was used to him going on trips anyway. I said what matters to her is that our family is not broken. He said it does not mean we are, it mioght even make things better. He will wake up early, come over to the house, prepare breakfast for us, then go back there to sleep maybe 3 days a week. I asked if he needed alone time. He said yes. I asked if his being close to me is the reason he is that way, he said no, but that he also was hurting me and it was unfair.
I did not respond to that, even if I wanted to say that I could take it.
After our talk, he was talkative like he has not been since OW NC. We talked about work, as I am helping him analyze some data for a publication, and he was more animated and he even talked about what we will do later tonight.
I of course am trying to analyze.
Good points: he is starting to consider other peoples feeling again. he is starting to reach out.
Bad: if he oves out in january (will it be?) plus it also does not make financial sense, but I did not point that out to him, I think he will figure it out later. Especially as he blames me for the financial mess we are in, I don't want to make decisions regarding money right now.
Any thoughts out there?