You mentioned NOTHING about him having a very good reason for staying at a hotel (re Disney)... AHEM... Trying to get your own panties in a twist?
Anyway, at this point, I'd stick with NOT pursuing.
Look, he forgot about moving to California, he was there for you during your mom's illness, he was in constant contact missing you while he was in California, he came back loving and initiating.
Now is NOT the time to try to back him into a corner. Let him figure out what he wants on his own. Forcing an answer out of him will leave you BOTH unsure of what he really wants. Imagine a meek "yeah ok" from him after you force a response compared to "Mish, ILYSM, let's really be back together," coming from him on his own. GIVE HIM SPACE.
Imagine that this is a new R (it is, BTW). You get to this point in dating, he's all about you, pursuing you, missing you. You would NOT start demanding a promise ring or else, would you?
Prescription: Extend double-secret probation by two months, get back to me in the morning.
