Cutting the rope

[Sad_but_happy]

BTW, right now my W and I are reading "Surrendering to Marriage" together every night in bed. Its a great book and comes from the perspective of a woman. It is a pro-marriage book and I recomend it to any WAS or LBS. It was recomended to my W by her IC. After we finished I will get another pro-marriage book to read together. From there I'm hoping to read books that will allow better communication by understanding the differences between men and women (maybe "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus"). We'll see...

Keep in mind that my W and I have not kissed or ML in months but we hug every now and then, still sleep in the same bed, and have started to talk of our future life and future vacations. And I feel we are in a positive direction. The EA and the drug released because of it really messed her up. And I still feel she is morning the loss... But I also sense that it has gotten much better and feel she thinks of him less. That WILL NOT happen if she continues to see/text/talk/email OM.

Stay focused. But set that boundary... And once that boundary has been set, stand firm! There is no room for OP in a marriage!