Thanks MrB. Does it mean that he might be regretting filing for the D and listening to his family and lawyer that probably pushed him to do it? My H doesn't have OW it is his family that is the problem. My lawyer even is trying to push me into the D.
Is that what you meant by re-evaluating if what he is doing (with me) is the "right" thing to do?
Drew has it right. Quite frankly you don't know what your H is thinking, so don't bother. It's all part of detachment. It's the reason why even couples who reconcile go through a period of "false" reconciliations. The WAS starts thinking that they want to stay one minute, then they start panicking again and leave again. Anticipate this happening. It makes it easier to accept when it does happen.
He's re-evaluating everything just as you have been doing. He's deciding what is the "right" decision for him, same as you. If you start agreeing with having him out of your life, then he'll start wondering why.
But as was mentioned before. Control your own actions and thoughts because you can't control or assume to know what his are. What is going to be your next plan of action?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
He's re-evaluating everything just as you have been doing. He's deciding what is the "right" decision for him, same as you. If you start agreeing with having him out of your life, then he'll start wondering why.
In theory perhaps... but no one knows this for sure. You can spin in circles trying to read into every little detail of every interaction and get NOWHERE.
The quote above, is a bit contradictory to what you have below.
[quote=MrBond} Control your own actions and thoughts because you can't control or assume to know what his are. [/quote]
I like this ^^ much better. No one but your H really knows what's going on in his head and FTR, even he's probably having a helluva time trying to figure it out.
He's re-evaluating everything just as you have been doing. He's deciding what is the "right" decision for him, same as you. If you start agreeing with having him out of your life, then he'll start wondering why.
In theory perhaps... but no one knows this for sure. You can spin in circles trying to read into every little detail of every interaction and get NOWHERE.
The quote above, is a bit contradictory to what you have below.
Originally Posted By: MrBond
Control your own actions and thoughts because you can't control or assume to know what his are.
I like this ^^ much better. No one but your H really knows what's going on in his head and FTR, even he's probably having a helluva time trying to figure it out.
