Thanks...you know I was wondering if it was just me or what, because I seem very picky about who I would even date now! Maybe its just I know what I want, or rather DONT want
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Kissak, same here....Went to a dinner with my male friend (he is in a similar marriage situation with his MLC wife), I quite like him and he likes me...but boy, I stopped by his house to give him advice on decorating....was that a turn off....couldn't date a guy who has absolutely no sense of style and "clean"...if you know what I mean...
sorry for the hijack CW
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Lonely is such a weak word for how we feel I think. I'm lonely when DS isn't home. I'm lonely when I want to talk to my sister and she's not there. But missing H, missing the intimacy of sharing a life with someone, missing the other intimacy, Lonely doesn't even begin to describe the intensity of the pain of our loss, the longing for their return. Not sure there is a word that will encompass all that we feel as left behind spouses.
New thread: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2112303
I feel the same way as the rest of you gals. If it's not H I'm not interested.
I know that I am still healing and a part of me still loves XH very much. I think the fact that XH and I were civil, and even thoughtful, to one another during and after the D speaks volumes. Its only been recently that I've seen chinks in XH's armor....It would be much easier if XH and I had had a difficult M, but we didn't. We just experienced the ups and downs of life.
Oops I wasn't clear--when I said "open to R" I meant 'reconciliation' not a new relationship! I am not there yet by a loooong shot. BUt I am glad to see you post and tell us how you are doing. Christmas is going to sneak up this year, I think.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
