What does your DBcoach say about responding to his emails? I think your sitch is tricky. You want to be different than you were when the marriage was bad, but also detach. I think maybe a combination would be a good idea. Don't respond quickly, make it look like you are busy and not just waiting for him to email. And when you do email, bring up something fun about the kids that he is missing? I like your goal about not letting it consume you!
Last night went well because I actually got out of work. So I text him simply that I didn't need him to come. He then called immediately, asked to talk to DS, and then I came back on the line and quickly said ok, we gotta go in a very cheerful voice, and hung up. This is good for me. So my 3 days of no contact is officially starting today!!! Wish me luck! He also just got offered a new job and I know he will be asking my advice on whether or not to take it. Should I respond at all to that? Its hard because it does affect the kids, but yet I really for once just don't care what he does. For so many years I've been worrying about his career and life as well as my own and it feels good to not have to be a part of this decision.
Another question is xmas cards. What are you guys doing? Do I just put our last name on it, and not names? That's what I'm leaning towards. I also don't know about sending them to his family? That is kind of like doing something for him, except that I also want them to have a recent pic of the kids. I don't know!!!!
