I know how you feel. Lots of the things you write I feel also. Only in my case, he was convinced she was the real love of his life, so at least your H was aware the whole time how shallow their R was. At least that's what I understand.
I hope you do get to talk things through. I see that as farther away from the A, the less willing they are to talk about it. At least my H is. Have fun M
Please take into cosnideration that things may look more serious because of your hormones.
