Hi HerbGarden and welcome, as newbie myself i can't offer much advice but by reading through many of the posts here has helped me to understand how to help my marriage and i'm sure you will to. You are not alone in reading your posts i have seen some similarites as to how i am feeling right no except i am the wife, firstly i commend you for recognising and loving your wife enogh to want to change, with the shoe being on the other foot i would highly appreciate this and i'm sure your wife will too. You need to fix You, forgive You and heal You, i'm sorry if this sounds obvious but its something i have come to realise about myself especially as i held alot of anger towrds my H for his infidelities and then blamed myself for them i.e. not feeling good enough, attractive, confident etc... I also found taking the 5 love languages test a big help, it helped me realise what i see as being loving and on reading them have realised what my H is and have made improvments to work on filling his love tank :0)
