Okay, so here is the latest...first of all..you are right Oldtimer...he has a sex drive..it's just not for me. That said, we got into another huge fight last night and he told me that "it doesn't interest him" to touch a females privates and why can't I accept him for who he is. I asked him why he wanted to be with a woman then and his response was "because I'm not a f@$" (I'm sure you know what word belongs there). He kept trying to make me feel like I was some kind of sex maniac by telling me that I should just go out and try to find "my sex machine" and forget that we had other things going for us in our relationship, but I'm so sex crazy and selfish I don't care. Although I know what I'm expecting in terms of a sexual relationship is not wrong or out of the ordinary I do find that I start to doubt myself. Am I wrong???? Am I placing too much importance on sex?
I don't think there is much left in terms of a desire for me to keep this marriage. The thing is...even knowing he doesn't have "interest" in me as a woman would make it hard to have sex with him now anyway.
I do have an appointment with the sex therapist. She advised just what others of you have advised...tell him I'm going and he's welcome to go, but if not I'm going without him. Honestly, people...isn't a man that is not interested in a woman's vagina gay????
