No, you make the everyday decisions just fine. But the scary ones, well, scare you.
This is not a big deal. It is an opportunity to lay a boundary with him.
To be calm and not accusing, to present your issue so that he can hear it (even if he doesn't agree right away).
Just put it out there. I know you lied to me about staying at your mom's. I was checking some bill stuff, saw the charge and wondered why you didn't mention it. If you want to go beyond that, throw something in about because of what happened the last couple years, this caused me some anxiety. In order to avoid that in the future, I would like you to tell me about things like that in advance. And set the boundary, I want a relationship with open and honest communication and will not settle for less.
No need to do it tonight either. I don't think in the car on the way back from the airport would be good, he'll probably be tired and jet-lagged. Maybe tomorrow? Or after you get settled at home?
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
