I'm happy to report that last night my H chose to take me on the 'tacky Christmas light tour' instead of his usual Wed. night AA meeting (which for him is a big deal) we even sat up late chit chatting, then went to our room, ML and held each other close. THEN, this morning, he handed me a jewelry box....and NO it wasn't the dreaded annual earings..... .... It was a NEW wedding band...FOR HIM
Merry Christmas, hope your day was as beautiful as you are..
May Angelou is wonderful, she has kept me going--"Hope and fear cannot occupy the same space at the same time. invite one to to syay.
{{{Jan}}} you give ME hope, it seems like things are maybe turning out better than one assumed..
In my book, The Circle, it says:
For every difficulty that you meet head-on, a gift will be given; for everything taken away, there will be something even better replacing it. This just seemed to apply to your sitch, you know the jam and the tossing of the ring into the river...
I am so happy for you, he must hear more than he lets on at times!
It was very thoughtful of you to check on me yesterday, Opt and Colleen also checked on me and I actually had a good day. Not much like Christmas but good PMA.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I hope that's true. It would give us all amazing hope for the future. It sure is nice to think that's the way life is. I'm working on a tactic to change the dynamics of our R. It's so hard to know what to do,and scary to think of all that may happen with change,but sometimes we just have to take a leap of faith that the changes we will make will be for the better. I feel we are at a crossroads in our R and I have to back off and let my H start taking more initiative. I'm afraid he won't and we'll grow apart or he'll turn to the OW thinking I don't really want him.I have to do something though because I'm not happy with the way he treats me or the desire he feels for me. He's just riding along with me making all our plans and trying to make this R work. He knows I'm here for him and that I love him. I need help deciding what steps to take in order to make him know that if he does not eventually start meeting some of my needs that I won't be around forever. It's a fine line, I know. I'm sure many who are past this stage wondered the same things I'm wondering now. My attitude is changing and it's kinda scaring me. I want more. I'm just not sure how to get it. Any suggestions?? Rachael
Happy Holidays...hope you had a wonderful day...you deserve all the happiness that is coming your way...our patience and determination is getting us everywhere!!
If my brain were any smaller, I would be a dinosaur!
I saw your post on my thread and wanted to reply. So I have been writing to this nice guy for 3 days. It just dawned on me yesterday, that he was Trying23 and you are Trying24 and I had responded to the wrong person. Or did I?
I do think that everything happens for a reason and he needed help. So probably in that respect, it was meant to be. I seemed to get the answers just when I needed them. If I can return the favor, then that makes me happy!
So what's shaken with you? Your husbands still in LaLaland to a certain extent but your haging in there. Am I right? God love Ya'!
I have custody of my husband every Sunday, so today is visitation day. This is always a treat for me! (excuse me while I puke!)
So, I'm just chilling. Seeing where my life is going to take me and I'm happy. I'm pretty much at peace with the fact that my husband nuts!! ...and I'm having fun messing with his head.
I owe everyone on MLC a post. They keep asking where I am. They think that I've finally gone off the deep end!
