1. My W was hoping I would do just that and then her guilt would
be wiped out.
2. I know now it would have been medicating pain up to this point
in my journey.
Am I stuck? Maybe I am but I feel good about my choices and I
didn't hurt anybody.
Again No Regrets = Peace
I also have children who are watching me closely.
They do not know about the OM at this point.
I don't want to be first in that race in their minds.
Thoughtful thinking I have done on this post...
You are right that if I start something with someone else, I would be doing essentially the same thing - although we don't live together anymore AND we separated so that he could be with the OW. Our children know about the OW. He is out in public with her. It is not a secret.
Would I be self-medicating...yes to a certain extent. But I am also at the point that I am letting go of my H. If he came to me tomorrow and said here are the divorce papers, I would sign them. If he came to me tomorrow and said I want to work this out, I would tell him no. But if he came to me and said, I have broken it off with the OW because I don't love her and it wasn't working out...can we start "dating" to see if we can build a different and better relationship? (maybe not those exact words mind you - but you get the idea :-))I would seriously consider it. I would be lying if I said otherwise.
There are no plans to meet this other guy...he lives 2 1/2 hours away. We are just talking (I know that is how it starts!) I promise to do what feels right.
Thank you for your response! I need all the help I can get!!
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
