Originally Posted By: Concerned_Listener
At some point, it might be helpful to have an honest discussion about what happened. My guess is it's still too soon. She seems to talk about it from a distance.

Wow. You guys haven't discussed it yet. Wow. Well I sure don't have any experience with knowing when to discuss something like that. But. I'm just curious. You seem to be doing an awful lot of work protecting her from having to deal with number of things - discussing what happened; having to fall on her own with her problems. You often seem preoccupied with it, wondering 'how you can help her'...

I just wonder ... do you think it might be possible that you're 'overfunctioning' about her problems, in a subconscious way to avoiding having to deal with your own hurt, anger and pain over what happened?

What is it that YOU need from this M, CL?


I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.