The only reason to wait is for the kids. If my wife doesn't want to end the EA, then I don't want to have the fallout ruin their christmas.
I think I understand this, but then again... you weren't having the EA, so it's not you doing it. That would be a consequence of the EA, not your doing.
You may own your portion of the problems in your marriage prior to the affair, but you aren't responsible for the affair or its consequences.
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I am also hoping, but not optimistic that she may come to her senses now that she knows I am aware of what's going on with her and the OM.
Yeah, I'm not optimistic either, and hope is not a plan. I would think that if there are perceived consequences, then why should it stop? I haven't just seen these things stop just because the betrayed spouse knows too often.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
