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[MichelleLT]

That's a perfectly reasonable explanation. Good job not letting yourself automatically believe the worst.

But definitely in no way was not being upfront about it acceptable. Methinks he was possibly being passive aggressive about the fact that he thinks you would freak if he told you he was staying in a hotel?

So, definitely important to handle this calmly and get across that you are not upset about him staying at the hotel (unless something did happen of course) but rather that he wasn't just honest about it.

A quiet life with no scary decisions is a fantasy lol. If you aren't making the decisions and setting the boundaries, they're being made for you and set by someone else. Conflict can be scary, but not facing issues never resolves them, and they become bigger issues later. Best to just nip it in the bud early before it grows larger.