Right. You know, in Sex-Starved Marriage, MWD recommends taking time off from sex, weeks or months, a minimum of a few weeks, to clear your head, put sex in perspective, and let the LD partner get a break from the pursuit.
That would be a doubly good idea here, where it seems like CW has doubts about whether she really wants to stay in the marriage. Again, I'm not going to tell you whether to stay or go, but if you're wondering about it, better keep your options open. And I'd tell him honestly that you're doing this, although MWD's advice is to do the sabbatical from sex without telling the LD partner. She's giving that advice from the point of view that assumes you want to save the marriage; you may not, and I think you're in a big enough hole with this guy that he's frozen in either complacency or fear (probably fear) and is going to have to be shaken out of it.
