You have no idea how much I appreciate the support right now! I am going to take your advice on the 3 day thing. Right now the challenge is that I work a lot and sometimes need him to come to the house at night to watch the kids. Tonight is one of those nights. I wish that I had advice for you on the bank account thing. I know its just a matter of time before that happens to me as well. He has been telling me for months to get my own account, I just feel like if I do it is one more thing that makes this real. His name is on the mortgage just as much as mine is so it benefits him that I make the payments on time...and all the bills.
CajunRose,
Could you give us any pointers on things you've learned from having DD in therapy? I'm curious about the bedtime thing, I've actually been thinking that for awhile now. Even just in general, I think having H at home is confusing for my kids. The next day is always hard for DS. He cries, asks for daddy, and even pretends like H has walked in the door if I'm in the other room with DD. I've also told H to call DS at night, I thought it seemed like it would help but maybe that's also not a good idea. I really have no clue and I'm very aware that my being emotionally unstable is not beneficial for my kids so I think I need to do counseling for myself.
